Comments on: How to Fix Your Marriage http://whorechurch.wordpress.com/2007/04/21/how-to-fix-your-marriage/ The Superfluous Third Nipple on the Body of Christ Fri, 18 Dec 2009 20:37:40 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: SO I DIDNT BLELIEVE IT http://whorechurch.wordpress.com/2007/04/21/how-to-fix-your-marriage/#comment-3942 SO I DIDNT BLELIEVE IT Mon, 02 Jul 2007 07:47:31 +0000 http://whorechurch.wordpress.com/2007/04/21/how-to-fix-your-marriage/#comment-3942 I didn’t really think that life was going to be hard but this is the second time I had this in my life I thought I was careful and what I did but it seems that I wasn’t how to fix my marriage I’m in he same boat your in but in the beginning I stayed at home did the things that women said they needed help with I got her ready and my stepdaughter ready for the day to come it was my way of saying I’m in this to win a life with someone I can trust and love as I thought she loved me but things changed as time went on I notice a change when I would talk about things that concerned her daughter it would trouble me that she wouldn’t stay on her about school or her room and her attitude I didn’t know what she came exactly but I did know she was separated ready to get a divorce from a failed marriage the third one I didn’t pay it any mind because I was one time married and unsuccessful I gave myself time to heal and get over the fact that it’s the movie in real life cant find my son or speak to him cause of constant moving this was something that she knew and allowed me to be in my world about something I couldn’t touch or see but had the feelings to show at awkward times but for the most part I maintained my sanity and loved her to the fullest everyday before we got married the sex was good everyday no questions just spontaneous sex after she got off work I was their to pick her up with a romantic breakfast cooked and a hot bath waiting just for her and me I was focused on her and everything in between us the things that unfolded afterward was not pretty as saw things gradually change as I seen the child take shots at me about her mother (children do) I allowed this to go on because I never had to challenge a child for attention so I gave it and allowed it I totally requested that she spend time with her daughter cause there are things that are healthy to learn from her mother but there was the reason for not wanting to be with her and spend time she said that her child was just there to get and leave her hanging but that’s what kids do right ? I would pick up the slack but it continued to get worst as I talk more about the changes I seen in her daughter the less feed back I got on how to approach her with correction I was left in the house with a wild child and then prepare “love” (breakfast hot bath and good long sex good conversation) how could I over look these things that would affect us later in life for seeing how it started to weigh on my mind now it would become more important to speak on this as it started to affect my sense of importance in our relationship then out of the blue but on-time my ex-wife reappeared calling my mother to contact me and I did as followed normally this would be good to here from my absent son and talk to him as much as possible but I was in frustration With my currant love life the separation was an ordeal all its own. Pre-warned on the unorthadoc way she appears in my life I thought I would get some relief but I didn’t get anything and this was the first time I felt alone and weighed down separation was one thing I didn’t want so I got some consoling day therapy it soothe my mind but I was told that it wasn’t just my problem but hers to cause we are living as one every time I tried to talk about our little things she just shouted to the top of her lungs because I didn’t like that shouting hurt me because she was in their deep giving myself to this relationship I thought was the right thing to do but maybe it was just that gave in to soon after we got married things got worst she totally switched up on me turned in to the couch TV person she said I wasn’t f**king her but it got to that point because my needs weren’t being meet feeling all that I did was with out my heart involved but what she needed from me before we got married but how can you do this and not talk to a person about why they haven’t been the same so did what I do with her and she refused to talk about anything and would cry about her daughter but what I told in the past was to late to fix and now I was getting nothing NOTHING !!!! I had pain and drama when we got back from our horrible rundaiveau their was this child and her in their circle with each other and me on the outside getting nothing what did I do I went to Cleveland Ohio to my uncle and got nothing feeling empty all around I went back to my wife and remain here it’s a mind game of when am I going to leave? But I love her what can I do to fix this?? I didn’t really think that life was going to be hard but this is the second time I had this in my life I thought I was careful and what I did but it seems that I wasn’t how to fix my marriage I’m in he same boat your in but in the beginning I stayed at home did the things that women said they needed help with I got her ready and my stepdaughter ready for the day to come it was my way of saying I’m in this to win a life with someone I can trust and love as I thought she loved me but things changed as time went on I notice a change when I would talk about things that concerned her daughter it would trouble me that she wouldn’t stay on her about school or her room and her attitude I didn’t know what she came exactly but I did know she was separated ready to get a divorce from a failed marriage the third one I didn’t pay it any mind because I was one time married and unsuccessful I gave myself time to heal and get over the fact that it’s the movie in real life cant find my son or speak to him cause of constant moving this was something that she knew and allowed me to be in my world about something I couldn’t touch or see but had the feelings to show at awkward times but for the most part I maintained my sanity and loved her to the fullest everyday before we got married the sex was good everyday no questions just spontaneous sex after she got off work I was their to pick her up with a romantic breakfast cooked and a hot bath waiting just for her and me I was focused on her and everything in between us the things that unfolded afterward was not pretty as saw things gradually change as I seen the child take shots at me about her mother (children do) I allowed this to go on because I never had to challenge a child for attention so I gave it and allowed it I totally requested that she spend time with her daughter cause there are things that are healthy to learn from her mother but there was the reason for not wanting to be with her and spend time she said that her child was just there to get and leave her hanging but that’s what kids do right ? I would pick up the slack but it continued to get worst as I talk more about the changes I seen in her daughter the less feed back I got on how to approach her with correction I was left in the house with a wild child and then prepare “love” (breakfast hot bath and good long sex good conversation) how could I over look these things that would affect us later in life for seeing how it started to weigh on my mind now it would become more important to speak on this as it started to affect my sense of importance in our relationship then out of the blue but on-time my ex-wife reappeared calling my mother to contact me and I did as followed normally this would be good to here from my absent son and talk to him as much as possible but I was in frustration
With my currant love life the separation was an ordeal all its own. Pre-warned on the unorthadoc way she appears in my life I thought I would get some relief but I didn’t get anything and this was the first time I felt alone and weighed down separation was one thing I didn’t want so I got some consoling day therapy it soothe my mind but I was told that it wasn’t just my problem but hers to cause we are living as one every time I tried to talk about our little things she just shouted to the top of her lungs because I didn’t like that shouting hurt me because she was in their deep giving myself to this relationship I thought was the right thing to do but maybe it was just that gave in to soon after we got married things got worst she totally switched up on me turned in to the couch TV person she said I wasn’t f**king her but it got to that point because my needs weren’t being meet feeling all that I did was with out my heart involved but what she needed from me before we got married but how can you do this and not talk to a person about why they haven’t been the same so did what I do with her and she refused to talk about anything and would cry about her daughter but what I told in the past was to late to fix and now I was getting nothing NOTHING !!!! I had pain and drama when we got back from our horrible rundaiveau their was this child and her in their circle with each other and me on the outside getting nothing what did I do I went to Cleveland Ohio to my uncle and got nothing feeling empty all around I went back to my wife and remain here it’s a mind game of when am I going to leave? But I love her what can I do to fix this??

]]> By: ben http://whorechurch.wordpress.com/2007/04/21/how-to-fix-your-marriage/#comment-1593 ben Mon, 23 Apr 2007 02:44:52 +0000 http://whorechurch.wordpress.com/2007/04/21/how-to-fix-your-marriage/#comment-1593 thank you for your answers. i never thought i would get my own section. lol. i guess i could have been a bit more clear in my original post. i was posting at like 1:30 am after doing laundry. we are both in our 20s. im 28 and she is 25. she was working at wal mart untill recently. but they were treating her badly so we decided that she should quit her job. the last week she has been getting a little better with the housework but im not shure yet if it is because she wants to or if its because we got a notice that our apt complex was going to be inspecting us. it is a sad state i guess that i dont trust her motives entierly. i guess i need to work on that. i probly should have mentioned that we are pregnent as well with our first child. i know the hormons can mess a woman up with that, but i have several friends who also have pregnant wives and they have not been compleatly cut off, so i dont relly know if it is the hormons or just her not wanting me, our sex life has not been the greatest for a cuple of months befor that as well. is it normal for a woman not to want sex at all when pregnet? are there other guys out there going through this? i would love to hear from you. i dont think she is depressed, i think its just that she get one thing in her mind and thats all she will think about, and that one thing is almost never sex. if i t were we would probly going at it 3- 4 times a day. i know im probly rambling i just have so much on my mind and its hard to get my thoughts in order somtimes. maby im just being a pannsy cause i always am having arguments with her im my head, telling her how its gonna be/ should be, but then when i do start to talk about it i kinda wimp out cause i dont want to hurt her. i could care less about the house work and all, growing up i had to do everything anyway, but the lack of physical intemecy is killing me. thanks for your time and your lisstening ear thank you for your answers. i never thought i would get my own section. lol. i guess i could have been a bit more clear in my original post. i was posting at like 1:30 am after doing laundry. we are both in our 20s. im 28 and she is 25. she was working at wal mart untill recently. but they were treating her badly so we decided that she should quit her job. the last week she has been getting a little better with the housework but im not shure yet if it is because she wants to or if its because we got a notice that our apt complex was going to be inspecting us. it is a sad state i guess that i dont trust her motives entierly. i guess i need to work on that. i probly should have mentioned that we are pregnent as well with our first child. i know the hormons can mess a woman up with that, but i have several friends who also have pregnant wives and they have not been compleatly cut off, so i dont relly know if it is the hormons or just her not wanting me, our sex life has not been the greatest for a cuple of months befor that as well. is it normal for a woman not to want sex at all when pregnet? are there other guys out there going through this? i would love to hear from you. i dont think she is depressed, i think its just that she get one thing in her mind and thats all she will think about, and that one thing is almost never sex. if i t were we would probly going at it 3- 4 times a day. i know im probly rambling i just have so much on my mind and its hard to get my thoughts in order somtimes. maby im just being a pannsy cause i always am having arguments with her im my head, telling her how its gonna be/ should be, but then when i do start to talk about it i kinda wimp out cause i dont want to hurt her. i could care less about the house work and all, growing up i had to do everything anyway, but the lack of physical intemecy is killing me. thanks for your time and your lisstening ear

]]> By: breederx http://whorechurch.wordpress.com/2007/04/21/how-to-fix-your-marriage/#comment-1589 breederx Sun, 22 Apr 2007 19:30:29 +0000 http://whorechurch.wordpress.com/2007/04/21/how-to-fix-your-marriage/#comment-1589 Hey! You have a really interesting blog! Great advice, very interesting. . . :-) Best wishes! Hey!
You have a really interesting blog! Great advice, very interesting. . . :-) Best wishes!

]]> By: Desktopjunk http://whorechurch.wordpress.com/2007/04/21/how-to-fix-your-marriage/#comment-1587 Desktopjunk Sun, 22 Apr 2007 18:31:58 +0000 http://whorechurch.wordpress.com/2007/04/21/how-to-fix-your-marriage/#comment-1587 Thanks, always good posts on your blog! Thanks, always good posts on your blog!

]]> By: totaltransformation http://whorechurch.wordpress.com/2007/04/21/how-to-fix-your-marriage/#comment-1570 totaltransformation Sat, 21 Apr 2007 21:02:24 +0000 http://whorechurch.wordpress.com/2007/04/21/how-to-fix-your-marriage/#comment-1570 "she will feel better about herself as she keeps up with the house and likely your sex life will pick up as it did your first year of marriage." And if you have weight issues, or are out of shape, a pick-up in the sex life has wonderful health benefits. Plus those benefits (weight-loss and increased cardiovascular abilities) lead to an even better sex life (more desirable partner and better stamina). :-) “she will feel better about herself as she keeps up with the house and likely your sex life will pick up as it did your first year of marriage.”

And if you have weight issues, or are out of shape, a pick-up in the sex life has wonderful health benefits. Plus those benefits (weight-loss and increased cardiovascular abilities) lead to an even better sex life (more desirable partner and better stamina). :-)

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